4.5 stars - This is a really lovely book trying to help fill a much-needed niche about asexuality, and it's a wonderful start. I'm beyond happy to see nuanced conversations about asexuality, what ace relationships can look like, and the future of ace awareness and queer lib. I especially loved the integration of feminist philosophy ideas, as well as discussions on the complexity of language; even I learned some new things, and I've known I'm demisexual for over five years. (minus the 0.5 stars because I do wish the bits surrounding sex-negative feminism had a bit more nuance, the book's feminism as a whole seems to be pretty sex-neutral (which is where I stand as well) but presenting ideas from sex-neg feminism without any disclaimer or further discussion was a bit odd to me. at the same time, MacKinnon is simply everywhere.) I'd recommend this to anyone, especially if you're ace/questioning if you're ace/involved in a relationship with someone who's ace!