4.5 stars! at times i longed for a little more reflection or intimacy, but as a whole i thought this has strong through lines and a very likeable voice. it occupies a weird, but not bad, space somewhere between a standard memoir and a memoir-in-essays. however, i read this because of gender reveal (the podcast) and because Gomez is nonbinary, and there was almost no gender discussion! but that’s picky. overall, really enjoyed this one.