As with most of my audiobook reviews, this will be kind of brief, but I really wish that I had encountered this one in print first. Because of my terrible audio attention span, I think this one is not going to end up in my top reads of the year, and I think it really should, which is why I'm going with the five-star rating.

Brammer is dispensing really great wisdom, and this is only audiobook where I've felt compelled to stop and take screenshots of time markers, so I could go back and get quotes later.

Well, I guess I've talked myself into returning to this book in physical format later this year, which is really all the cue you should need to pick up this book.

Quotes:
Trauma is always trying to convince us that we are beings trapped in amber, defined by the static, unchangeable events of our lives, but that's the not the case. The worst things that have ever happened to us don't define us. We are the ones who get to define what those things mean. (~52:00)
Race is a system more concerned with creating experiential differences than it is whether you are "really" anything. (~1:39:00)
In our small city of Lawton, Wal-Mart was the de facto center of the universe. This was before we got higher end options like Target. (~1:44:30)
In public spaces, when I heard a gay man speaking in a flamboyant, feminine way, sometimes I would reflexively cringe, wishing he'd tone it down. There had been times I'd seen people dress in gender nonconforming ways and felt secondhand embarrassment or shame for them. I wasn't just policing others either. I hated my own voice. I'd tell myself my taste in clothes was too feminine, that I could never go out wearing that. (~2:58:00)