I related a lot to the main character, both his best and worst qualities, and I think that impacted my enjoyment of the book a lot. I don’t know that this will be for everyone, I think there are a lot of people who will decided on the first page that this book isn’t for them. This book is a sex-filled journey with a truly loathsome man as he blows apart his life and then tries to rebuild it and there were times when I wondered if there was any redeeming him, for me there was, but not everyone is going to feel that way. However, if you like stories of personal growth, give this one a read. 

Really enjoyed this book, especially the exploration of the LGBT and disability perspectives. Funny, raw, and raunchy. 

The last 20/25 percent ish made up for the major beginning bulk of this book. It felt too self-inserty for me and Elliot was not likable nor was he someone I could sympathize with. A cis white man who is immensely privileged in spite of his cerebral palsy... had problems I just couldn't fully understand. It was only towards the end when we meet Jonas that the author actually gave Elliot more of a human quality and I understood what he was trying to tell the readers when it came to disability rep and laws. Except, I wonder how the author feels when it comes to bipoc, trans and other concerns. 

There was so much I loved about this book. 

The writing style reminded me of how I talk with my friends. There were many references that I knew - both the overlap of my tastes and the right time for these references to feel relevant. Not just because of their chronological context, but more the level of importance those cultural touchstones have for me at this point in time.

Then there was an actual messy queer relationship - this book highlights that we deserve representation across a variety of circumstances. Queer relationships do not have to be perfect, and our media should reflect that.

I also enjoyed the questions O’Connell poses in the way we view disability. I’ve been around different disabilities my whole life - as well as finding later in life diagnoses for myself - but it was so refreshing to read something that encouraged the reader to consider their own exposure to disability whilst presenting one example of what that might look like.